If you went to high school with me, you probably have babies. Lots of them. Cute pink-cheeked ones wearing striped leggings and little leather shoes adorned with animal faces.
For the record, I LOVE babies. Especially babies that are related to me, or babies who belong to people I like. Babies are cool little creatures full of potential.
For a few years of my grownuphood I wished to birth no babies. Then, for a month or two, I thought a baby could be cool, iPhone cool. Days passed like weeks and I remembered that babies cost $$ and that I, at present, can only inconsistently afford the good, organic, wholesome and overpriced cat food for Foster and Cupcake.
A month or so ago I read a great book (Comfort by Ann Hood, I highly recommend it), and it made me think I could one day adopt a baby. In hindsight, it's a good thing I chose that book instead of HOW TO JUMP OFF BRIDGES AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE because it's very likely that I'd be writing this from a dangerous perch atop the Brooklyn Bridge.
But I digress. Three days after announcing my intentions to prance off to China in 2011 with my sights set on an adorable mini-me, I looked up some wikipedia entries on adoption and nixed the whole imaginary operation.
Which, however tangentially, brings me back around to Facebook.
So I've made it to 33 without having a serious lady-crisis about my own desire/ability/opportunity to make babies. All of my thoughts on the matter have been fleeting, goofy, and shared for a cheap laugh. There has been no hand wringing or hair tearing or rending of garments. Thanks to Facebook, that's changed. A spate of high school acquaintances became PEOPLE I MAY KNOW. And these PEOPLE I MAY KNOW are covered in babies. Multiple babies. Old babies who go off to school and talk and choose their own outfits from darling Mammut dressers.
A baby here and there has been fine for my pysche. But the multitudes of babies? I just wasn't prepared for this, and now I'm having bizarro dreams about having alien babies and misplacing babies. I want my old dreams back! The ones with talking cats and rainbows. Those I like, those leave me refreshed and positive in the morning light.
There are people I may know, people I did know, people I maybe I kind of knew--and they're all being fruitful and multiplying. Living in New York is like living in a bubble of delightful edgy sameness. A few of my friends have babies. Most of them don't. Here, I'm the baseline, as much as there is a baseline. But there, in the land of PEOPLE I MAY KNOW, I'm the odd bird out.
Two roads diverged from my high school, and I took the one less traveled--I just didn't know it until now.